Do You Have a Hearing Partner?

The term “hearing partner” is often used in the context of aural rehabilitation. Your hearing partner is a spouse or someone close to you who will be part of the process of adjusting to a new hearing aid or cochlear implant. They might go through a course of regular listening exercises with you to help your brain acclimate to the new sounds. But not everyone who could benefit from a hearing partner has one. You may have to be a bit more creative.

Spouses are convenient but not your only option.

Try connecting on FaceTime.

As a supplement, or even a replacement for a human hearing partner, try a recorded book. You can borrow them from many libraries. You’ll also need a print copy. First listen to a passage, a paragraph or two. Then look at the print version. Think about your mistakes and why you made them. Repeat, etc…. It does take quite a while to get through a book this way, so choose a good one. In a noisy environment, headphones help. Or you can download the recorded book on your Bluetooth-equipped phone, and the recorded text will go straight to your hearing aid or cochlear implant.

FaceTime is good for practice as well. No captions allowed on this one. I like FaceTime on my laptop but lots of people prefer their phone. Have your FaceTime partner say a few sentences. You repeat what you heard. If you got some but not all of what was said, ask your FT partner to repeat the part you didn’t understand. Another way to do this is for your FT partner to read a paragraph. You paraphrase what you heard.

Try listening to music with captions. Go on Spotify or another app and choose some favorites – I’ve been listening to Paul Simon’s Graceland recently. Spotify captions are at the bottom of the screen. I find that after a few hearings I can understand the words without the captions. The music is a little distorted, but even the music sounds better with captions. This obviously doesn’t work with orchestral music.

There are various at-home hearing-rehab programs online and of course they are useful too. I haven’t used them recently and would love to hear readers’ experiences with them. Please comment below. And if anyone has other DYI suggestions, please share them.

After I got a cochlear implant in 2009. I really needed someone to practice with. A good friend, recently retired, was confined to her apartment for many cold winter months recovering from cancer surgery and complications. She couldn’t go out, so I went to her. As I wrote in “Shouting Won’t Help,” we spent long days talking, and sometimes deliberately practicing hearing. She would read and I would try to understand what she was saying. Sometimes my mistakes were amusing. “Tiger Woods was tucked away, eating paper,” I heard. She was reading from People magazine about the disgraced golfer. But he wasn’t eating paper, he was reading Playboy. “Reading” sounds a lot like “eating,” and “paper” sounds a lot like “Playboy” – especially out of context. But it’s out-of-context speech that is the hardest to get: the punchline of a joke, for instance.

The best way to learn to hear again is to practice. So find somebody — or something — to do the talking. You’ll do the listening.

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For more about hearing loss, read my books: “Shouting Won’t Help,” “Living Better with Hearing Loss,”and “Smart Hearing,” available at Amazon.com.

4 thoughts on “Do You Have a Hearing Partner?

  1. I smiled at your comment that “even the music sounds better with captions.” I get your meaning, but experts agree that listening with hearing loss, with or without hearing aids or cochlear implants, music will sound different and somewhat less exciting.

    That’s especially true for those of us who have CIs, of which I have two, because we’ve gone from nature’s way of hearing, acoustically, to electronic, via set of perhaps 10-20 electrodes (depending on brand) implanted in our cochlea.

    I appreciate that Spotify captioned songs would enhance by appreciation of pop music and artists such as Taylor Swift and Billy Eilish, who’s songs I think have poetic charm, as Bob Dylan’s music once moved me. Alas, if only radio and TV music could be accompanied by captions.

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    • Thanks for this comment. Listening via Bluetooth is really only good for pop music. Even though opera has words, and even though I love it, I wouldn’t try it on my iPhone. It is one reason I love the Met Opera at the opera house or on HD — it’s all captioned which really enhances the listening experience. And now — thanks to our advocacy — the intermission features are captioned too. I even like the Bloomberg ad at the beginning.

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  2. I had to repost this column because of an error. Here are two comments on the original that are very useful but didn’t make the transfer.

    1. I signed up for a highlighted version of Voice of America’s Learning English several years ago. Words are highlighted as you read. This is called immersion reading. You can listen to news programs and classic stories. I listen with the highlighted words once or twice, then I play back without highlighting. I don’t always get all the way through, but even a little bit of just hearing and understanding is so gratifying.

    2. The REHAB link at cochlearimplantbasics.com covers the topic of rehab for those who live alone. I’ve mentored many in that position.
    Great post. I’m sure it will speak to many sitting on the fence but hesitant because they don’t have a hearing partner.

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